On June 27, 2019, at 10:25 am our little girl Raya Hegarty was born. She was delivered by C-section at 34 weeks. I had preeclampsia and so it was important to get her delivered sooner than later. The last two months has been both amazing and one heck of a challenge.
The Wednesday night before delivery the hospital inserted a central line in my neck for IV access. That was quite a challenging experience and affected some of my mobility over the next week. I then had a blood transfusion in order to make sure that my platelet count was high enough for my morning C-section. The most challenging part of the transfusion was how cold I felt throughout the process. Being awake for the birth of our daughter was very important and so I needed to have a spinal block. One of my concerns was not being able to feel my legs especially since they are so important to my independence. Honestly, I was so focused on the birth of Raya that not feeling my lower body with the least thing from my mind. After she was born I went to sleep and by the time I woke up the effects of the spinal were over. The C-section incision didn’t hamper the use of my legs as I feared. That first night with the help of a friend I somehow manage to transfer into a wheelchair and go see my little girl in the NICU. Once I got up there, I took my foot reached up to her bed and put my toe in her little hand. The nurses and my friend were amazed of what I was doing within a day of a C-section. It never crossed my mind to do anything differently. Why wouldn’t I touch my daughter first with my foot they’re my hands.
Two months post birth we are all doing amazing! As a mom with a disability I am caring for our little girl just like any other mom. I dress, carry, feed, burp and change her diapers independently. Getting her in out of the car seat and in the car has been quite a challenge. However we have succeeded in figuring out how to do that as well. With the support of my husband, family and friends I am the mom I always thought I could be. I know as time goes on there will be more challenges, amazing adventures and spectacular successes! I’m looking forward to all of them.
Yes, if any of you are wondering I’m writing again and there will be another book. I don’t know how long it’ll take but I started it. I’m thinking it will include the challenges of getting pregnant, the pregnancy, birth, and probably the first six months to year of Raya’s life.