Disabled parent is a thing. I keep saying that but mainstream society isn’t listening. When my daughter was first born I struggled with finding accessible products for me as a mom with a disability. Most of my google searches gave me products for children with disabilities.
Guess what people? Disabled kids grow up to be adults and many of them have children. They still need accessibility products to care for their children. I made do like I’ve always had too. My family and friends helped me adapt things to fit my needs.
COVID hit and the world shut down. We all stopped going out. I used online shopping or curb side pickup. My daughter was no longer in daycare as I worked from home.
My daughter is 3 now and world has opened up. My mobility is less then before and my chronic pain is worse. Staying home so much not moving around has not been good on my body. As I venture out with my daughter, I’m reminded that the world doesn’t think much about parents with disabilities.
The search for preschool was fun. Conversations were had with a few schools. I shared my needs as a disabled parent it was frustrating. I was looking for accessible parking and accessible access into the school. Stuff that they are required to have by Federal Law. After talking with one school they never emailed the promised paperwork. It didn’t surprise me from the conversation that was had with them.
We found a preschool and they have been great with requests for accessibility. Extra curricular activities have started. I’ve started to encounter inaccessibility again. Parking and entrances are a problem. Now I need to strategize on how I manage these things. I have a little girl who is excited about going back. How much do I push for change vs just dealing with it?
My actions now affect more than just me. So I’ll take the relationship building path. It’s good but takes much more time then just directly addressing the issue. The outcome is sometimes better. I’ve learned there is no easy solution to dealing with inaccessibility.